Friday, February 14, 2014

Individuality



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                Growing up when children experience the process of being their own person, they run into the tough issue of  both honoring their parents heritage and as well as their own. The teenage years are the most common years when people begin figuring out what kind of individuals they are. I believe that's why we are perceived  as rebellious because we have not yet established a way of easily transitioning away from our parents customs without them taking offense.
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               My parents share a mixture of Cajun, Tex Mex, and comfort cooking. Cajun foods are particularly recognized for their spicy kick. As an individual, I've learned that I am not the biggest fan of spicy foods and a lot of times the food is prepared spicy. I figured that as long as I make an attempt to share the same food desires as my father then I won't come off as being stubborn, but as making an effort. Also I feel like my parents should have the right to know my reasons for not liking the spicier foods. I've specifically explained to my parents a legitimate reason as to why I prefer not to eat some of the foods offered to me by my lovely aunts and uncles. I just personally can't handle how uncomfortable I feel when my mouth is on fire and my parents understand because the only thing they would want to see is me happy. They'd also be proud of me of actually making a genuine effort to share their same love for certain foods they grew up with. Instead of coming off as being unfair by not ever verifying if I actually liked something or not.
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                  When I was younger I would occasionally get my hair straightened by my mom because when she was younger her younger sister  and her would, get a permanent straighten on their hair by my grandmother. I as an individual have solely established that no longer will I ever straighten my hair again, because I have learned to embrace my naturally curly hair. I would not ever straighten my hair just because it was apart of my moms childhood. I would completely be going against what I so strongly stand for. I have openly expressed to my mom my concerns with ever straightening my hair again and she was completely understanding of my strong individuality. She has expressed to me that there is absolutely nothing wrong with my decision and she agrees according to my reasoning. She has always stressed to me growing up that the necessary fundamentals of becoming an individual does not come from the opinions of the public, but from what makes that individual most comfortable and happy while staying 100% true to ones self, because at the end of the day one must live their life for themselves and no one else.

                I think a good sense of communication between the children and parents is a significant key to bridging a mutual understanding as to why children not all the time want to continue their parents practices in life, but wouldn't mind acknowledging their importance to the parents individuality. Parents can sometimes be the rebellious ones by not wanting to accept that the child might not want to practice the same customs. Instead of forcing them on the child they are potentially pushing that child away and bruising their unique individuality. I can also understand why some parents make their children feel like they are obligated to continue the same practices no matter their desire may be. The parents are too under anxiety that their culture will fade away and generations to come in American will unify to create this one culture that is basically structured around the technology and everyone becomes mainstream. Both parties of the issue should just meet each other half way and compromise with one another.

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