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Growing up when children experience the process of being their own person, they run into the tough issue of both honoring their parents heritage and as well as their own. The teenage years are the most common years when people begin figuring out what kind of individuals they are. I believe that's why we are perceived as rebellious because we have not yet established a way of easily transitioning away from our parents customs without them taking offense.
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When I was younger I would occasionally get my hair straightened by my mom because when she was younger her younger sister and her would, get a permanent straighten on their hair by my grandmother. I as an individual have solely established that no longer will I ever straighten my hair again, because I have learned to embrace my naturally curly hair. I would not ever straighten my hair just because it was apart of my moms childhood. I would completely be going against what I so strongly stand for. I have openly expressed to my mom my concerns with ever straightening my hair again and she was completely understanding of my strong individuality. She has expressed to me that there is absolutely nothing wrong with my decision and she agrees according to my reasoning. She has always stressed to me growing up that the necessary fundamentals of becoming an individual does not come from the opinions of the public, but from what makes that individual most comfortable and happy while staying 100% true to ones self, because at the end of the day one must live their life for themselves and no one else.
I think a good sense of communication between the children and parents is a significant key to bridging a mutual understanding as to why children not all the time want to continue their parents practices in life, but wouldn't mind acknowledging their importance to the parents individuality. Parents can sometimes be the rebellious ones by not wanting to accept that the child might not want to practice the same customs. Instead of forcing them on the child they are potentially pushing that child away and bruising their unique individuality. I can also understand why some parents make their children feel like they are obligated to continue the same practices no matter their desire may be. The parents are too under anxiety that their culture will fade away and generations to come in American will unify to create this one culture that is basically structured around the technology and everyone becomes mainstream. Both parties of the issue should just meet each other half way and compromise with one another.
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